Signs of bad parenting in children: Parenting really is like a roller coaster. Sometimes it seems that everything is going perfectly fine, the child is set, the routine is set. And then some day it seems as if a small member of the house has become the boss himself. Children change in a moment, and sometimes we realize their small changes only when things start getting out of hand. If you ever feel that the child is becoming more possessive, drama is increasing on every issue or arguments start over small things, then these are the same signs which should not be ignored. Let us understand what are the symptoms which indicate that some change in parenting is necessary.
1. When the child starts considering every limit as a ‘personal attack’
Suppose you say, “No screen time right now,” or “I won’t get this toy right now,” or “Wait a little,” and the child immediately starts crying, screaming, or getting angry. Some parents stop interrupting out of fear that the child might get angry again.
This happens when the child is not restrained for a long time and no limits are set. He gets into the habit that if he insists, cries or insists, the decisions will be changed. That’s why even a small restriction seems big to him. In such a situation, the child starts considering every ‘no’ as an attack on himself and the atmosphere at home becomes unstable.
2. Don’t value things
Another big sign is getting bored as soon as you receive a gift, not even saying thank you, or creating drama even for small things. The child starts believing that good things will come to him regardless of whether he works hard or not.
Such children consider even small household tasks as ‘options’, like picking up toys, keeping their bags, doing homework. They feel that all this is on their choice, whereas it is very important to have a sense of responsibility.
Often this habit is formed when parents do everything themselves for their convenience. By doing this, the child starts thinking that all the work at home is done ‘automatically’. Then he starts losing interest in hard work, be it studies, maintaining friendships or school projects.
3. The child starts lying on small things
If the child starts making excuses for everything or starts hiding the truth, then it may be a sign that the environment at home is very strict or he does not get a chance to express his views openly. In such a situation, there is a need to explain to the child, not to scare him.
This doesn’t mean parenting is bad
Most importantly, these symptoms do not mean that you are a bad parent. It just means that you are noticing things and want to improve them. This is real parenting.
Remember that children need some strict, clear boundaries. They need love and some strictness as well. If you keep these things in mind continuously, positive changes will come. Only balance is important.
