Death anniversary: ​​how Bapu was husband for Ba, what he wrote on his married life

Today is the death anniversary of Bapu’s wife Kasturba Gandhi. He died on this day in 1944. People used to call Kasturba Gandhi affectionately in Gandhi Ashram. She was remembered later by the same name. Kasturba Gandhi was born on 11 April 1869 in Porbandar. His father Gokuldas Makanji was a businessman. Kasturba Gandhi’s father Gokuldas and Gandhiji’s father Karamchand Gandhi were friends. Due to the old life identity in both the families, it was the foundation of the relationship between Gandhi and Kasturba and both of them got married.

Mahatma Gandhi and Kasturba Gandhi were married in 1882. Both started living like married couple. But due to the young age, both of them looked like a game of marriage. They became friends playing together and were unable to understand the responsibility of marriage. Bapu once said that marriage meant to him at that time – new clothes, sweets to eat and blossoming with relatives.

How was the married life of Mahatma Gandhi and Kasturba Gandhi
Mahatma Gandhi has written in his autobiography that initially he felt a lot of attraction for Kasturba. Gandhiji was in school at that time. In one place he has written that even in school, he used to think about Kasturba. Later, he is ashamed of this feeling. Kasturba Gandhi was illiterate. Bapu started teaching them. But they did not have much enthusiasm about studies, because they had to deal with household chores.

In 1897, Kasturba Gandhi went to South Africa with Mahatma Gandhi. Gandhiji went there to study law. She supported Gandhiji’s work and followed him in every work. Kasturba Gandhi also supported Bapu’s movement against the discrimination against blacks in South Africa and took active participation in those movements.

When bad fight with Ba
Many things have been said about the married life of Mahatma Gandhi and Kasturba Gandhi. There is also a point in it that there was no formation between the two. Bapu himself has told some truth in his autobiography about his married life and confessed his mistake. One such incident is a quarrel between Bapu and Kasturba Gandhi, in which Bapu was bent on removing his wife Kasturba from the house.

In South Africa, Mahatma Gandhi was not ready to have a servant with him. He asked Kasturba Gandhi to settle the household chores. However, Kasturba Gandhi’s views on this were different. Mahatma Gandhi has written in his autobiography that Kasturba saw her husband changing before his eyes. Mahatma Gandhi adopted European costumes as a barrister. I had learned to live life like him. His public activism had increased and during this time he also had to be a victim of police harassment. Kasturba not only had to take care of them but also had to take care of the guests visiting her. All of this had a bad effect on Kasturba Gandhi’s health.

When Mahatma Gandhi asked Kasturba Gandhi to leave the house
Once Mahatma Gandhi gave an order that surprised Kasturba Gandhi. He forced Kasturba Gandhi to clean the toilet of the guests who came here. Kasturba Gandhi burst on this matter. He said – Enough is enough. After this, there was a fierce fight between the two.

The feud between the two increased so much that Gandhiji asked Kasturba to leave the house. The matter increased so much that Mahatma Gandhi grabbed Kasturba Gandhi’s arm and took him out of the house. Later, he was very sorry for this whole incident. He wrote in his autobiography that ‘It was just like an English officer pushed me out of the train. Tears were continuously flowing from Kasturba’s eyes. She was screaming and saying that you do not have a little shame? Have you forgotten yourself so much? Where will i go You think that as your wife, I am only there to take care of you and eat your dust. Fix your behavior for God and close the gate. Don’t create such a spectacle. ‘

Bapu embarrassed by his actions
After this Bapu writes that he was very ashamed of his actions but he closed the door with strictness on his face. Bapu has written that if my wife cannot leave me then how can I leave her. There were many fights between us but in the end both of us remained calm. Bapu writes that Kasturba had extraordinary patience and tolerance, so she was always a winner.

Two books written on Baa some time ago
A few years ago, two books on Kasturba Gandhi appeared. Both research and best books. Eminent writer Giriraj Kishore in Hindi wrote a book named “Baa” after many years of hard work, which tried to highlight the untouched aspects, dilemmas, contradictions and personality of Ba’s life.

The second book is also important. This book is “The Secret Diary of Kasturba” by author Neelima Dalmia Adhar. This book was the result of a decade of research and hard work by Neelima.

Kasturba was courageous when Gandhi was submissive in childhood
Then Gandhi used to be weak, subdued, and Kasturba was its exact opposite – courageous, fearless. Six months old. Neelima Dalmiya’s book says that there have been many occasions in Ba’s life when she has used her rights irresponsibly. Also, the wife’s religion was also performed with full devotion and ease.

To be fair, Ba alone completed the journey of many people’s share. First she was in the country, then went abroad. In the jail there and then in the jails of the country. Ba’s responsibilities were divided. The ashram, the children, the ashram dwellers, the husband and self-decision like Bapu himself and finally the political legacy of the husband, who used to share the ba. She also struggled for the country and also for family and identity.

Bapu was often discouraged in debate
The books of both Giriraj Kishore and Neelima Dalmia say that there was debate between Ba and Bapu. Bapu was always speechless in front of Ba’s arguments. It was a different matter that even after disagreements, Ba accepted Bapu’s words. He did what he wished.

How did you die
After Bapu was arrested on 9 August 1942, Ba decided that she herself would go to give a speech at Shivaji Park in Mumbai. He was arrested at the park entrance. Two days later, he was sent to the same Aga Khan palace in Poona, where Bapu was also arrested. She was unwell at that time. His deteriorating health deteriorated after his arrest. He finally died on 22 February 1944. However, Bapu’s eldest son definitely rebuked the father that if he wanted, he could give life to Ba by giving him an injection of penicillin.