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TikToker Meg Neil’s viral trend ‘Date until you hate’ is being discussed a lot on social media. At first glance, this may seem like a way to make a breakup easier, but according to experts, this gradual emotional separation can deeply affect a person’s mental and emotional health.
Breakups are never easy for anyone, but a new dating trend on social media is making the process even more complicated. The ‘Date until you hate’ trend going viral on Tik-Tok is in the news again and people are debating on it a lot. This trend was started by TikToker Meg Neil, who told in a video in 2023 how she came out of her 4-year-old relationship without suffering much pain. She said – I dated him till he hated me… that is, maintaining the relationship till he hated the other person.
This trend is becoming popular in relationships because it is the best way to get out of a relationship. In fact, this trend encourages gradually increasing emotional distance instead of facing relationship problems, so that the heart does not get broken at the time of breakup, because the emotions are already over.
Why do people adopt this avoidance-based breakup method?
Avoidance often happens when a person is running away from something painful inside. Many people are afraid of confrontation in relationships. Fear of being judged, fear of hurting your partner, or fear of the relationship ending. Avoidance seems to reduce the pain, but it only gives temporary relief. Instead of bringing up the issues, gradually keep your mind away from the relationship so that the breakup seems easier in the end.
What is its effect? Big loss on emotional well-being
Even though this method may reduce stress in the short term, in the long run it leaves the person emotionally exhausted. When a person continuously suppresses his emotions, gradually he starts getting disconnected not only from his partner but also from himself. May be afraid to express emotions. Can avoid setting boundaries. You will start ignoring even small problems and eventually it may become difficult to handle conflict in relationships, which means this approach not only harms a relationship, but can also affect the person’s communication patterns and future attachment style.
How to handle a hard breakup in a healthy way?
First of all, accept the situation. Many times we feel so much that in the end we feel nothing. But it is important to take small steps to deal with the breakup in a healthy way. Tell your small feelings or needs to your partner. This starts a dialogue and makes it easier to take big decisions. This method can be helpful for those who are unable to end the relationship immediately. Talk to friends or a therapist, understand your feelings, decide in advance what to say, and choose a time to talk in a calm environment.
